About three months ago I met up with my mother at her job. We were going to go to lunch but before that she wanted me to come inside and meet some of her co-workers. That day I had on my Lisa Raye (all white) outfit, some white pants and a white tank top and some white sandals and some basketball wives earrings (big and long)- I was looking fly! My mother takes me to the break room and she introduces me to some of her female co-workers. The first woman looks me up and down and gave me the complete "stank eye". "Nice to meet you" she says.
"Nice to me you too." I ignore her stank look and my mother introduces me to another woman, "Hello nice to meet you" she looks me up and down. I ignore her stank eyes and me and my mother go to lunch. I was shocked that these women (and many other women) were so stank and rude. They didn't even know me but gave me a look like I had slept with their husbands. Instead of saying, "Oh you look so nice today" they gave me the evil eye.
Women we have to be real with ourselves and understand there are always going to be beautiful women around. We cannot let our insecurity cause us to be rude and stank to each other. It takes security within to say, "Girl you are rocking that outfit". Too many times we are in competition with each other and we feel threatened when a woman comes in with a beautiful face, outfit or hair style. We have to understand we are NOT in competition with each other and it takes nothing away from us to give another woman a compliment.
Women, this has to stop! We have to stop looking other woman up and down. Let's stop giving each other the stank eye. If another woman is looking fly, if she has some bomb shoes on or a cute hair style, tell her instead of looking her up and down. It's not hard to give another woman a compliment and who knows, your compliment could make her day. It's easier to give a woman a compliment than to give her the stank eye. Please let's stop the petty, mean, up and down, hating, evil/stank eye looks to other women, why? Because we are better than that!
"The Arabic word al-‘ayn (translated as the evil eye) refers to when a person harms another with his eye. It starts when the person likes a thing, then his evil feelings affect it, by means of his repeated looking at the object of his
jealousy..." Salaamu Alyckum
LOL!!
With Love, Miss D.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
No Victims
God created no victims, not I, nor you... So what are you going to do?
She believes she is a victim, powerless, helpless, no control over her body, mind, thoughts or actions. And now everybody owes her something!
But God created no victims, not I, nor you, so what is she going to do?
Maybe you were raped, what are you going to do?
Maybe your mother was addicted to drugs and men, what are you going to do?
Maybe your father was a dead beat dad, what are you going to do?
Maybe you were physically abused, what are you going to do?
He is the victim, powerless, blaming everyone for his actions, she, them or they are the reason he loses his temper and beats his wife's ass.
He justifies his violent actions, believing He is this way because His father beat his mother's ass and his grandfather did the same thing to his grandmother.
He plays the victim, poor guy.
But God created no victims, not I, nor you, so what are you going to do?
Are you going to blame, deny that you still feel pain and say you are healed from your past, when you really are not?
Are you going to continue to blame other's, your parents, your environment for your weaknesses you choose not to work on?
When will you say, "Yes, this, this molestation, this divorce, this abuse, this thing happened to me, but I am not powerless!" I can choose to be better. Not because of I, but because of the God in I.
I hope one day all of those people who believe they are victims, all those people who feel sorry for themselves realize the lesson is not about being powerless, the lesson is not about blame.
The lesson of rape, molestation, divorce, abuse, neglect and heartbreak is not about staying angry, unforgiving or blaming. Nor is your lesson about saying, "poor me".
The lesson, my lesson, your lesson is about forgiving, giving, healing and empowering those that come behind you, accepting your past and realizing God created your life with purpose and NOTHING in your life has been a mistake.
Realizing all the love that you have been searching for, all the love that was taken from you is found in God...
God created no victims, not I, nor you, so what are we going to do?
Peace and Love, Miss Deliverance
She believes she is a victim, powerless, helpless, no control over her body, mind, thoughts or actions. And now everybody owes her something!
But God created no victims, not I, nor you, so what is she going to do?
Maybe you were raped, what are you going to do?
Maybe your mother was addicted to drugs and men, what are you going to do?
Maybe your father was a dead beat dad, what are you going to do?
Maybe you were physically abused, what are you going to do?
He is the victim, powerless, blaming everyone for his actions, she, them or they are the reason he loses his temper and beats his wife's ass.
He justifies his violent actions, believing He is this way because His father beat his mother's ass and his grandfather did the same thing to his grandmother.
He plays the victim, poor guy.
But God created no victims, not I, nor you, so what are you going to do?
Are you going to blame, deny that you still feel pain and say you are healed from your past, when you really are not?
Are you going to continue to blame other's, your parents, your environment for your weaknesses you choose not to work on?
When will you say, "Yes, this, this molestation, this divorce, this abuse, this thing happened to me, but I am not powerless!" I can choose to be better. Not because of I, but because of the God in I.
I hope one day all of those people who believe they are victims, all those people who feel sorry for themselves realize the lesson is not about being powerless, the lesson is not about blame.
The lesson of rape, molestation, divorce, abuse, neglect and heartbreak is not about staying angry, unforgiving or blaming. Nor is your lesson about saying, "poor me".
The lesson, my lesson, your lesson is about forgiving, giving, healing and empowering those that come behind you, accepting your past and realizing God created your life with purpose and NOTHING in your life has been a mistake.
Realizing all the love that you have been searching for, all the love that was taken from you is found in God...
God created no victims, not I, nor you, so what are we going to do?
Peace and Love, Miss Deliverance
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